SELF DEVELOPMENT BLOG

Validation, Approval, and Happiness

Posted By admin on October 15, 2009

My wife and I at the beach

What is it that we are all seeking? If your first response to this question is happiness, then I completely agree. When we boil it all down, the one thing most people truly want is simply to be happy.
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Think about it, isn’t the real reason we have relationships, earn money, buy stuff, and go on vacation because we think those things will bring us happiness? So I think it’s fair to say that, regardless of the pursuit, happiness is always the ultimate goal.
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Validation and approval
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One of the biggest contributors to our feelings of self-worth is validation. It is very emotionally reassuring to experience the approval of others. The reason for this is that their approval provides external validation for our positive feelings about ourselves.
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We are naturally drawn to people and experiences that make a positive contribution to our basic need for approval. All people have this core need for approval, and filling it, regardless of the source, is always a positive emotional experience.
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Happiness and validation
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This video shows how external validation makes people feel. I found it extremely entertaining and think you will feel the same way. So, instead of reading a long article, I invite you to kick back and watch VALIDATION.

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